"Step-father-in-law" passed away....could use some advice/venting.

[Phills14]

Has anyone thought about moving her into a Chinese community? Usually those are tight knit communities where they look out for each other. I know Cleveland has a mini-china town on the near east side. I'm not sure about Akron or other communities but if she can be around others that speak her language as well be in walking distance to some of her basic shopping needs it could take significant burden off of everyone. Plus the rent in those areas are typically low.

 

[MikeOC33]

But no, she definitely doesn't have anyone in mind, unless I am completely oblivious. I think she has a couple Chinese-speaking female friends and that is about it.

lol... I meant YOU and her daughter!

 

[Kouki]

lol... I meant YOU and her daughter!

God, I really hope not. My gf insists that isn't the case. I hope she is right. If it is the case then I will have to put my foot down, I am not living like that. I would rather find a side job and throw her a couple hundred a month. I hear self-publishing porn novellas on Amazon can make you bank, maybe I would do that.

Has anyone thought about moving her into a Chinese community? Usually those are tight knit communities where they look out for each other. I know Cleveland has a mini-china town on the near east side. I'm not sure about Akron or other communities but if she can be around others that speak her language as well be in walking distance to some of her basic shopping needs it could take significant burden off of everyone. Plus the rent in those areas are typically low.

I have thought about it, but not too much. Honestly I think this is the best thing for her. Maybe she can meet someone to take care of her, too. Whether or not she would accept this - starting over - is unknown. In some sense or another, she has to "start over" somehow.

 

[Kouki]

thanks again for all the help everyone. "in-laws" out of town so they are out of our hair now. thought there was gonna be some drama, the son was going through all the stuff at the house and it was kind of bothering gf/mother, think he took one piece of expensive fishing equipment, gf called him out, but eh, its all over now

gf's mother slept at her apt alone for the first time last night so that's good.

two questions i thought of, maybe someone here knows

1) he owned a firearm, a 9mm ruger p89. i'm either going to give money to gf's mom for it, or sell it. of course, i want to make sure i do this legally. anyone know the proper course of action?

2) based on her income at work she definitely is elegible for SNAP/food stamps. however if you include the income from the apartment rentals she probably doesn't. anyone know if the apartment income would factor into SNAP eligibility?

 

[CleveRocks]

All property (and debts) goes to mom... Son should not be lifting anything until mom is even with debts and so on. If it is over that is all cool, but this is the kind of thing that becomes intrafamily drama, unless there is an attorney which should represent the moms interests.

My father in law passed at 48, and main problem was it caused issues with me and my wife for awhile (grieving process i guess). But Mom was in decent financial shape and had a huge extended family to help her out.

 

[Kouki]

Okay so now it's a big ol legal shirtstorm, kind of.

His kids are out of the picture at least.

My girlfriend's mother's name is on the mortgage of the apartments, along with her step father who passed, but her name is not on the title. They need to evict a tenant (not paying rent) but don't know if they have legal authority.

I went to the probate court to get some documents and they said we needed an attorney to carry out the probate process since assets will exceed 100k (property value is 99,900 and he has a few junker cars in the driveway. go fucking figure).

So I guess we need to find a lawyer. A really cheap lawyer preferably. Her mother is working on 1k a month.

 

[The Oi]

Better

Call

Saul

 

[TyGuy]

This is why getting a trust is imperative; probate court is ass.

 

[Kouki]

Better

Call

Saul

first thing i said

was not received well

 

[Lee]

I just saw this thread. You don't need financial advice, you need relationship advice.

Long story short, the Mom is moving in with the daughter. Not only do they have no choice, it is their culture.

Get used to the idea or break up. I give it 6 months and she will live with your g/f permanently. Not being harsh, just think you need to realize this will happen and they are now a package.

 

[Kouki]

i really, really doubt it comes to that, gf doesn't want to live with her mom just as much as i don't want to

 

[Soda]

Fugg it.