Cancer fucking sucks (Prayers/thoughts for my dad)

[Man Called X]

I got to talk to him for a bit. He's still pretty weak after surgery, but it was good to hear his voice. I've decided when he gets home, I'm gonna record some videos of him. Recipes he created, memories, funny stories and jokes, words of advice and encouragement and a video for my daughter when she grows up. It won't be the same as talking to him, but it'll be as close as I can get.

 

[seasoned vet]

sorry to hear, but theres a better place awaiting his arrival. ill pray for him. but make sure hes right with the Lord. is he baptized and born again? i would recommend a pastor go in to talk and pray with him. that will definitely give him some spiritual peace in a stressful situation.

 

[mubb98]

I got to talk to him for a bit. He's still pretty weak after surgery, but it was good to hear his voice. I've decided when he gets home, I'm gonna record some videos of him. Recipes he created, memories, funny stories and jokes, words of advice and encouragement and a video for my daughter when she grows up. It won't be the same as talking to him, but it'll be as close as I can get.

What a great idea X! I wish I had done something like that with my parents. I think it would also be good for you and it would be wonderful for your daughter to have.
When my Son was younger I made some mp3 recordings of him talking about Barney. Pretty funny to listen to now and it brings back special memories. He hates it now that he's 20 LOL! I wish I would have done that with my daughter as well. The point is that to me its priceless.
Glad he's out of surgery. Hang in there........ better days are ahead.

 

[Man Called X]

I picked Dad up today. Was going to be earlier in the day, but he apparently had some leakage. They wanted to keep him an extra day but he wasn't having any of it.

 

[mubb98]

That is FANTASTIC news and I am happy for you both! I am sure you are excited and drained.
I am also sure he is beaten up pretty good from the surgery so keep a close eye on him. Oh, and charge those video camera batteries!!
Keep us updated X.

 

[Man Called X]

Dad developed a fever yesterday so I called the squad to get him to the ER. They admitted him, said he had pneumonia and started him on IV fluids/antibiotics. He kept wanting to come home, but there's just no possible way I can put my family through that. I know how hard it was on me when my mom died in our house. I hated going home.

He decided he didn't want to fight anymore, that he wanted no more treatments for his pneumonia or anything. He just wants to die. He hates me right now because I'm not letting him come home. I know what his final wishes are, he wants to curl up in his bed, take a shitload of the cannabis oil and just fall asleep for good. But with my fiancee and baby here at the house, I just can't do that to them. Maybe I can sneak it into him at the hospice if that's where they let him go. No clue if it's going to have to be a nursing home first or not.

 

[Nicky]

Normally when people no longer want to recieve treatments, hospice is the next place they go.

My mother was only in hospice for about 5 hours before she passed (long f'd up story there). Hospice is very nice and peaceful. It's a hard and difficult decision to make. You should talk with someone from the hospital to see what the proper procedure is.

 

[mubb98]

Dad developed a fever yesterday so I called the squad to get him to the ER. They admitted him, said he had pneumonia and started him on IV fluids/antibiotics. He kept wanting to come home, but there's just no possible way I can put my family through that. I know how hard it was on me when my mom died in our house. I hated going home.

He decided he didn't want to fight anymore, that he wanted no more treatments for his pneumonia or anything. He just wants to die. He hates me right now because I'm not letting him come home. I know what his final wishes are, he wants to curl up in his bed, take a shitload of the cannabis oil and just fall asleep for good. But with my fiancee and baby here at the house, I just can't do that to them. Maybe I can sneak it into him at the hospice if that's where they let him go. No clue if it's going to have to be a nursing home first or not.

Don't you dare give up and do not let him give up!!!!!!!!! X do NOT give in!

 

[Man Called X]

Normally when people no longer want to recieve treatments, hospice is the next place they go.

My mother was only in hospice for about 5 hours before she passed (long f'd up story there). Hospice is very nice and peaceful. It's a hard and difficult decision to make. You should talk with someone from the hospital to see what the proper procedure is.

I have been. He's being moved to the hospice house sometime tonight/early tomorrow. It's only a short term thing tho, so there's a chance he may have to go to a nursing home or something afterwards. His vitals etc aren't as bad as he thinks he is, but he's beyond miserable.

 

[Man Called X]

Don't you dare give up and do not let him give up!!!!!!!!! X do NOT give in!

I don't have power of attorney, so I don't have an option. He made that decision himself and there was nothing I could say that would change his mind. He doesn't want me to hold onto him anymore.

 

[mubb98]

Both off my in laws are now in the hospital and its a long fucked up story, you tell him to stay strong for your daughter! Do NOT let him give up. He owes her that much............. You can not give up X. Pneumonia can be beaten so please stay strong.

 

[mubb98]

I am going to be blunt, X, you have 1 shot here and you need to make him understand that his grand daughter needs him and she needs him NOW! You hold him like there is no tomorrow weather he likes it or not. DO NOT LET HIM GIVE UP!!!!!!

 

[mubb98]

I am going to be blunt, X, you have 1 shot here and you need to make him understand that his grand daughter needs him and she needs him NOW! You hold him like there is no tomorrow weather he likes it or not. DO NOT LET HIM GIVE UP!!!!!!

No regrets Dude, you have to go all in on this.

 

[mubb98]

No regrets Dude, you have to go all in on this.

 

[mubb98]

I would give my left arm to hold my Mom or Dad for 5 seconds........ DO not give in!