Drug addiction/sobriety

[Adam]

My case was dismissed! In California, this is synonymous with expungement.

Im g2g for any private sector job.

I hate making decisions. I'm making good money right now and am comfortable with the work. 60k or so. It's a big switch to have a boss and sit in an office. But I'd get benefits and a 401k and job stability.

Stuck.

Dude dont grasp defeat from the arms of victory! congrats on the dismissal! You dont have to go out and get a job right now, if you're happy doing you current one and its working for you financially then stick at it. You're not stuck you now have options. If sometime you want to change you can now. Awesome!

 

[David.]

Dude dont grasp defeat from the arms of victory! congrats on the dismissal! You dont have to go out and get a job right now, if you're happy doing you current one and its working for you financially then stick at it. You're not stuck you now have options. If sometime you want to change you can now. Awesome!

It's that and the long distance relationship man. I'm going nuts. I hate making decisions and there are two extremely big ones on the plate.

Every year I'm not accounting is a year 3 years from now I'm not making 75k with benefits and 401k and raises. It's just the right decision but I can't do it.

 

[Adam]

It's that and the long distance relationship man. I'm going nuts. I hate making decisions and there are two extremely big ones on the plate.

Every year I'm not accounting is a year 3 years from now I'm not making 75k with benefits and 401k and raises. It's just the right decision but I can't do it.

I have never really understood why people hate making big decisions. they give life a sense of adventure in my opinion (not often said about accountancy). Be aware of the relativist fallacy you are creating for yourself. seriously consider "why wont it work for me? if it can work for the 'reasonable man' why not me?"
If the answer is anything that is under your control then trust that you can control it and will succeed, you have mastered much greater foes. It's time to roll the dice, carpe the diem and realise that even good change is uncomfortable at first and we all need to go outside our comfort zone if we are to grow.

 

[David.]

One year 7 months.

I'm gonna start studying for the cpa exam. I drive around and listen and learn 45 hours a week, the obvious move is to knock this out.

They say it takes 400 study hours.. I could have it done in 10 weeks. Average cpa salary in San Diego is 95k.

Doing pretty well. Making 1200 a week and paying minimal taxes thanks to this year's reform, selling the Addy (I know) and soon picking up another gig economy job that should add 5-10k per year.

Student loans could be gone in no time but I think I want to pay it off a little slower and get into real estate

 

[David.]

Almost caved today.

I am having a lot of trouble studying. Cpa is 400 study hours and the test is fucking hard. I can't stay motivated and I can't sit down and read.

I have a lot of student loans to pay back. Every penny past bills would go towards them for 3 years before they're clear. If I pass this, it cuts that down dramatically

I work a lot. It's all I do. I make a lot but I get none of it. It goes to pay down debt. It's incredibly demoralizing. Slave for years. And I don't have the energy to do that and study this much.

 

[The Process God]

Almost caved today.

I am having a lot of trouble studying. Cpa is 400 study hours and the test is fucking hard. I can't stay motivated and I can't sit down and read.

I have a lot of student loans to pay back. Every penny past bills would go towards them for 3 years before they're clear. If I pass this, it cuts that down dramatically

I work a lot. It's all I do. I make a lot but I get none of it. It goes to pay down debt. It's incredibly demoralizing. Slave for years. And I don't have the energy to do that and study this much.

Are you just making minimum payments, or are you able to cut down on work in order to have more time/energy to focus on studying? You can't always have everything.

 

[cavman]

So I have been asked to help someone detox from alcohol. Her body is very dependent on it. Does anyone have any experience helping someone, and what to expect? I would rather her do it in a treatment center but she does not have insurance.

 

[David.]

So I have been asked to help someone detox from alcohol. Her body is very dependent on it. Does anyone have any experience helping someone, and what to expect? I would rather her do it in a treatment center but she does not have insurance.

@The Human Q-Tip

 

[The Human Q-Tip]

@The Human Q-Tip

Damn, thanks for the ping but that's too far out of my bailliwick. Best I can say is that google is your friend. Or perhaps see if there is some social service agency that at least can give free advice.

 

[David.]

Getting a little worried. I've never liked drinking but the idea dawned on me on Thanksgiving so I didn't have to deal with being away with family.

Its ntk much when I drink but It has been 3 of the past 4 nights and frankly it's all I want to do if I'm being honest.im in physical pain I'm so depressed and this kills it pretty effectively

Pain meds were also a problem while I had them but they weren't cool enough to buy after my rx ran out. Alcohol is available at every corner for like a fucking 5 spot

 

[cavman]

Getting a little worried. I've never liked drinking but the idea dawned on me on Thanksgiving so I didn't have to deal with being away with family.

Its ntk much when I drink but It has been 3 of the past 4 nights and frankly it's all I want to do if I'm being honest.im in physical pain I'm so depressed and this kills it pretty effectively

Pain meds were also a problem while I had them but they weren't cool enough to buy after my rx ran out. Alcohol is available at every corner for like a fucking 5 spot

That is one of the worst things to do man. I’m worried about you.

 

[Kouki]

Alcohol is a serious habit to break once you get into it. Soon enough four-five drinks won't be enough and you are living just to get to your next drink. Then you are lying to others about how much you drink, and hiding it behind their backs. And mixing up which liquor store you go to because you are embarrassed about buying it so frequently. Then you are engaging in stupid behavior while drinking. Speaking from experience and that kinda makes me a hypocrite because I have gone through phases but right now I'm in a good phase and it's a breath of fresh air...just accepting the fact that I don't need to drink, and therefore I don't need to hide anything and lie to myself.

Get some help man...

 

[Deezus]

So I have been asked to help someone detox from alcohol. Her body is very dependent on it. Does anyone have any experience helping someone, and what to expect? I would rather her do it in a treatment center but she does not have insurance.

I have a friend from college that I was really worried about 4-5 years ago. I didn't "experience" it with him but i did do research to help him put together a plan...

DO NOT let her stop suddenly. She needs to taper off. If not she could experience delerium tremens and those can kill you. This is no joke. No hard liquor... no wine (they're both too strong)... Use a regular beer like Bud Light or something. Establish her baseline. If she drinks, on average 12 drinks a day, cut it down to 10 beers the first day, 8 the next, 6 the day after that, then 4, 2, 1, and nothing. You can even stretch it out longer if you feel its safer. If you can get your hands on some anti-anxiety meds like Lorazepam it is literally what they give people in the hospital who are physically dependent. Only let her take them if she's starting to get shaky or "really" needs them.

She'll need to drink a ton of water and will need electrolytes (think pedialite or gatorade). Make sure she eats good food. Real, unprocessed shit. Make her some chicken noodle soup with real veggies in it. Even if she doesn't feel like it. My buddy was able to successfully do it himself, but he, unfortunately is a heavy drinker still these days... although not in the shape he was when I helped him make a plan. Hope this helps! Do some research online... there are a ton of resources out there.

 

[cavman]

I have a friend from college that I was really worried about 4-5 years ago. I didn't "experience" it with him but i did do research to help him put together a plan...

DO NOT let her stop suddenly. She needs to taper off. If not she could experience delerium tremens and those can kill you. This is no joke. No hard liquor... no wine (they're both too strong)... Use a regular beer like Bud Light or something. Establish her baseline. If she drinks, on average 12 drinks a day, cut it down to 10 beers the first day, 8 the next, 6 the day after that, then 4, 2, 1, and nothing. You can even stretch it out longer if you feel its safer. If you can get your hands on some anti-anxiety meds like Lorazepam it is literally what they give people in the hospital who are physically dependent. Only let her take them if she's starting to get shaky or "really" needs them.

She'll need to drink a ton of water and will need electrolytes (think pedialite or gatorade). Make sure she eats good food. Real, unprocessed shit. Make her some chicken noodle soup with real veggies in it. Even if she doesn't feel like it. My buddy was able to successfully do it himself, but he, unfortunately is a heavy drinker still these days... although not in the shape he was when I helped him make a plan. Hope this helps! Do some research online... there are a ton of resources out there.

Thanks man. I was reading about the taper and that looks like the route we should go. I do have ativan, but I will not let her know I do. She would scream that she needs one. I'm going to do more research before we do this in january.

 

[Deezus]

Thanks man. I was reading about the taper and that looks like the route we should go. I do have ativan, but I will not let her know I do. She would scream that she needs one. I'm going to do more research before we do this in january.

Good call. PM me if I can be of any more help.