Triumph36
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what are you actively doing to solve your problems? that is the million dollar question. sulking around about how bad things are, or this and that, is a dead end and absolute waste of time.
sit back and truly evaluate what is going on, and the best path to get back to "normalcy" so to speak. would picking up a second job, or more hours at your first, put a dent in the debt after a few years? or if the debt is that insurmountable what about going back to some sort of school? i'd think - but may be wrong - that you'd qualify for some sorts of financial aid so you wouldn't be adding much to your current debt.
what about your spending habits? i'm not saying become a hermit and spend $0 on entertainment/having fun, but there has to be certain areas where you can cut down or out completely. look for cheap hobbies that you'/d potentially enjoy - most notably some sort of exercise as that has so many varied benefits (hiking or running, bodyweight exercises, gym if you can afford, maybe co-ed leagues once you have a bit more spending money and can go out w/ teammates/friends afterwards). or going to the library and getting into reading. or volunteering for some cause you support, which would help add to your resume. or something among the many other opportunities. investing time, and sometimes money, in improving yourself does wonders for your confidence, happiness, and makes it far easier to make friends/meet women.
also, after that above eval, STOP looking at the big picture. keep it in mind, obviously, but focus more on the short-term and the small victories. if you're always looking at everything that is wrong, it can be so intimidating and make climbing out of the hole that much harder. things aren't going to be fixed overnight, or even in the next weeks, months, or even years. it takes time, sometimes more than others depending on your circumstances. but the bottom line is to stay progressing, even though it won't seem like much in the big picture. paying off an additional $XXX in debt every week, or getting in an exercise routine, or truly finding cheaper hobbies you enjoy will push you towards your solution a little bit at a time.
finally, truly realize where you are in the timeline of life. you are 24. 24! roughly a third of the way through your life, on average (tho this will likely be increased in the coming years anyway). so even if spending maybe 2 years fixing your life seems like a lot of time, it's really not because you'll get to enjoy life again for so many more years of your life.
sit back and truly evaluate what is going on, and the best path to get back to "normalcy" so to speak. would picking up a second job, or more hours at your first, put a dent in the debt after a few years? or if the debt is that insurmountable what about going back to some sort of school? i'd think - but may be wrong - that you'd qualify for some sorts of financial aid so you wouldn't be adding much to your current debt.
what about your spending habits? i'm not saying become a hermit and spend $0 on entertainment/having fun, but there has to be certain areas where you can cut down or out completely. look for cheap hobbies that you'/d potentially enjoy - most notably some sort of exercise as that has so many varied benefits (hiking or running, bodyweight exercises, gym if you can afford, maybe co-ed leagues once you have a bit more spending money and can go out w/ teammates/friends afterwards). or going to the library and getting into reading. or volunteering for some cause you support, which would help add to your resume. or something among the many other opportunities. investing time, and sometimes money, in improving yourself does wonders for your confidence, happiness, and makes it far easier to make friends/meet women.
also, after that above eval, STOP looking at the big picture. keep it in mind, obviously, but focus more on the short-term and the small victories. if you're always looking at everything that is wrong, it can be so intimidating and make climbing out of the hole that much harder. things aren't going to be fixed overnight, or even in the next weeks, months, or even years. it takes time, sometimes more than others depending on your circumstances. but the bottom line is to stay progressing, even though it won't seem like much in the big picture. paying off an additional $XXX in debt every week, or getting in an exercise routine, or truly finding cheaper hobbies you enjoy will push you towards your solution a little bit at a time.
finally, truly realize where you are in the timeline of life. you are 24. 24! roughly a third of the way through your life, on average (tho this will likely be increased in the coming years anyway). so even if spending maybe 2 years fixing your life seems like a lot of time, it's really not because you'll get to enjoy life again for so many more years of your life.