I'm extremely introverted, start sweating whenever attention is on me, am 34 have rarely approached women. Have had ok success on dating online, but am looking for a certain kind of woman. The beautiful in shape gym chick's. They aren't online even if they were it is impossible to get them, but I want them bad so have to do what I've never done to get them. I'm about to start approaching. Where to begin? Again am extremely introverted and quiet.
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Start approaching women? How?
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Dude, it sounds like you're a middling junior high ballplayer trying to get hits against Justin Verlander. Your batting average is just going to suck big-time.
Why not just go for normal girls rather than fantasy women? You'll have a lot more success and be happier.
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Find a cute, smart girl. What's the obsession with the instagram model type that clearly doesn't fit your personality.
Your personality is what it is.. I would look to find someone you are compatible with rather than try to change who you are for a little but more glute.
Your personality is what it is.. I would look to find someone you are compatible with rather than try to change who you are for a little but more glute.
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First step--stop objectifying members of the opposite sex.
They're just people, dude. You don't "get" them. They aren't yours to possess.
- Treat them like people, with respect.
- Shower
If you want to go further than that, figure out grooming--what style of facial hair works for you, what haircut works for you, and what clothes look good on you.
If you go that far, you're already ahead of like 96% of guys. Once you're in a relationship, if you're actually considerate and you go down on her, you're now ahead of 99%.
Congratulations Adonis, you've done it.
Oh, and I'm sure it goes without saying, but if you're into any of the online "Manosphere" like Jordan Peterson, Andrew Tate, Sneako, or further down the tunnel of blackpill, incel shit--just stop. It's not going to help you, and removing those poisons from your body will be the single best thing you can do for your mental health.
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Do you have a job? How is that possible?
I do. I play basketball for an hour, then lift weights, for an hour, nap, then do Cardio for 45, then go to work.
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If your gym has some type of cafe, just hang out there. Most women no matter how good looking or in shape they are hate to be hit on at the gym.
Trying to say this without being sexist or objectifying anyone: To be honest, you’ll probably find the women you’re dreaming of are some of the most self-centered and superficial you’ll ever meet. They’re really hot so they don’t have to develop much of a personality. If that’s what you’re into, have at it. You can be their tripod while they find the perfect spot to take their next IG pic.
Probably best to figure out what you actually like outside just physical appearance. Find people with common interests and eventually you’ll connect with someone that meets physical attractiveness and has a personality.
Trying to say this without being sexist or objectifying anyone: To be honest, you’ll probably find the women you’re dreaming of are some of the most self-centered and superficial you’ll ever meet. They’re really hot so they don’t have to develop much of a personality. If that’s what you’re into, have at it. You can be their tripod while they find the perfect spot to take their next IG pic.
Probably best to figure out what you actually like outside just physical appearance. Find people with common interests and eventually you’ll connect with someone that meets physical attractiveness and has a personality.
I'm forcing the issue because I don't have any more time left. I'm 34 and u have to have children. I have no more time to wait. I am not here to be preached to about how my thinking is wrong. I am looking for help to get one of these beautiful women pregnant. I have a very noble reason for wanting children immediately I'd rather not get into. I have to start approaching. Online dating takes too long and although I'm extremely anxious I have to take action and not let life decide for me.
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It's real.
There are massive online groups full of people like this--and much, much worse.
Lots of grifters are getting in on the act of monetizing incels. The internet can be a deep, dark place.
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