Start approaching women? How?

[Out of the Rafters at the Q]

It makes me self conscious but I’ve been wearing my tank top to lift more and I’ve gotten some looks. Need to learn to capitalize of them. I don’t care about being a creep. I just need help from you all approaching.

When I say creep I just don’t think there’s anything wrong with approaching a woman anywhere. Gym, grocery store, what ever

Dude, everyone here has given you the same advice.

Yet you're insistent that everyone else is wrong and the same mentality that has failed you for years is clearly the right course.

You're going so far as to tell everyone else exactly what you want to hear "I just need help from you all approaching."

One of these days you have to take a minute and put the pieces together. I hope that day comes soon.

 

[letgocavs]

Dude, everyone here has given you the same advice.

Yet you're insistent that everyone else is wrong and the same mentality that has failed you for years is clearly the right course.

You're going so far as to tell everyone else exactly what you want to hear "I just need help from you all approaching."

One of these days you have to take a minute and put the pieces together. I hope that day comes soon.

So give up?

 

[KevinLoveFan]

Dude, everyone here has given you the same advice.

Yet you're insistent that everyone else is wrong and the same mentality that has failed you for years is clearly the right course.

You're going so far as to tell everyone else exactly what you want to hear "I just need help from you all approaching."

One of these days you have to take a minute and put the pieces together. I hope that day comes soon.

Yup.

Sadly, after some encouraging introspection posts yesterday, back we are to a regression of reasoning from letgocavsfan.

Dudes and me (lady) have genuinely tried to help you here. We've been patient and haven't sent you cursing insults like you'd probably get from Reddit dudes and the like. Many of us here are your age or slightly older, have successful relationships of many years, and we try to help you, but...you keep making bad decisions.

I'm going to take your word that you're a decent looking guy, that you have a stable job, and that you've overcome alcoholism. Those are all very good things, and those aren't your problems. Your problems are your insecurity, the fact you objectify women, and don't know how to approach them other than say "I'll get you pregnant" or some such thing.

We know little of your principles, your life philosophy, your long term objectives, your views of how to be a good father, your morals...the things that would make you a viable mate to women who actually want to have children..

You once said awhile back that women need to be like the 1950s again. Guess what? Most Instagram women don't want that. If you truly want that kind of woman, you're probably only going to find them at a conservative church, and they might only be 6 of 10 in the looks department, and they're going to want marriage instead of a quick knock up because that's what moral 1950s women want.

This is logical reality, the truth of the matter. If you can't accept this, we'll keep seeing these threads from you for years to come, and you'll have no one to blame anymore but yourself.

 

[letgocavs]

Yup.

Sadly, after some encouraging introspection posts yesterday, back we are to a regression of reasoning from letgocavsfan.

Dudes and me (lady) have genuinely tried to help you here. We've been patient and haven't sent you cursing insults like you'd probably get from Reddit dudes and the like. Many of us here are your age or slightly older, have successful relationships of many years, and we try to help you, but...you keep making bad decisions.

I'm going to take your word that you're a decent looking guy, that you have a stable job, and that you've overcome alcoholism. Those are all very good things, and those aren't your problems. Your problems are your insecurity, the fact you objectify women, and don't know how to approach them other than say "I'll get you pregnant" or some such thing.

We know little of your principles, your life philosophy, your long term objectives, your views of how to be a good father, your morals...the things that would make you a viable mate to women who actually want to have children..

You once said awhile back that women need to be like the 1950s again. Guess what? Most Instagram women don't want that. If you truly want that kind of woman, you're probably only going to find them at a conservative church, and they might only be 6 of 10 in the looks department, and they're going to want marriage instead of a quick knock up because that's what moral 1950s women want.

This is logical reality, the truth of the matter. If you can't accept this, we'll keep seeing these threads from you for years to come, and you'll have no one to blame anymore but yourself.

Can I pm you a pic of myself and you give me a honest rating. 1 to 10? I think I’m a solid 7. A 7 should be able to score a 10

 

[Stark]

When I say creep I just don’t think there’s anything wrong with approaching a woman anywhere. Gym, grocery store, what ever

Asked this girl that I've been talking to and seeing what she thought about a guy having this mindset.

She said, and I quote, "that's vagina repellant unless it's like Chris Hemsworth."

Women want to be left alone and get whatever they're doing done at the store, gym, etc. If you're going to go against the trend and try to make a move at Kroger at 2 PM, then I'd get used to the status quo you're enduring.

 

[letgocavs]

Asked this girl that I've been talking to and seeing what she thought about a guy having this mindset.

She said, and I quote, "that's vagina repellant unless it's like Chris Hemsworth."

Women want to be left alone and get whatever they're doing done at the store, gym, etc. If you're going to go against the trend and try to make a move at Kroger at 2 PM, then I'd get used to the status quo you're enduring.

So everyone is meeting at a bar or club then huh

 

[KevinLoveFan]

Can I pm you a pic of myself and you give me a honest rating. 1 to 10? I think I’m a solid 7. A 7 should be able to score a 10

Kevin Love is a 10. My husband is a 9. I'm with my husband and not Kevin Love. Figure that out

 

[letgocavs]

Kevin Love is a 10. My husband is a 9. I'm with my husband and not Kevin Love. Figure that out

So is that a no? I only ask because you’re a woman and can give it to me straight about my looks.

 

[Stark]

So everyone is meeting at a bar or club then huh

It's a good place to start honestly. A good chunk of single girls don't mind if a good looking dude approaches them, buys them a drink, etc. Get a number there and branch out the next day when you're both sober and see if it clicks.

I knew the girl I am talking to now in passing from our jobs, saw her legit one time and we both noticed each other. Asked her out over fucking Facebook messenger, we went to a few bars, talked, and then talked more when we were sober. Now we've got a decent thing going on.

 

[Stark]

So is that a no? I only ask because you’re a woman and can give it to me straight about my looks.

Send it to @The Oi - dude shoots the straightest shot on the board.

 

[Out of the Rafters at the Q]

So give up?

I want to sarcastically say "Yeah, thats exactly what my post said" or make some snarky quip about how if that's what you got out of my post, then PLEASE do us all a favor and do exactly that.

But, those aren't helpful.

So, why do you read my post that encourages you to use your brain and think about the 4 pages of considerate advice you've received from strangers on the internet who know nothing about you except your bad takes on sports, and come to that conclusion?

Everyone here is being beyond charitable towards you. If you read "Dude, actually consider our advice" and think "That's impossible. I might as well give up!" then we might as well lock this thread because you never had any intention of changing or improving yourself, and nothing we can say will change that.

 

[KevinLoveFan]

So is that a no? I only ask because you’re a woman and can give it to me straight about my looks.

Of course it's a no.

Dudes and I have given you extensive reasoning of why you're failing, and how you've given nothing of your morals, principles, philosophy, etc, and all you offer is "but am I a 7 or not."

I question your introversion claims entirely. If you're an introvert, you'd offer deep thought and analytical responses.

You're just insecure and conflating the two concepts.

 

[Stark]

Of course it's a no.

Dudes and I have given you extensive reasoning of why you're failing, and how you've given nothing of your morals, principles, philosophy, etc, and all you offer is "but am I a 7 or not."

I question your introversion claims entirely. If you're an introvert, you'd offer deep thought and analytical responses.

You're just insecure and conflating the two concepts.

Can I send you a picture of my driver's side door of my car? I think there's a bit of rust starting to form and I want to know if it's too late to try to sandpaper the afflicted area and get the problem spot out of there before it spreads.

 

[letgocavs]

I want to sarcastically say "Yeah, thats exactly what my post said" or make some snarky quip about how if that's what you got out of my post, then PLEASE do us all a favor and do exactly that.

But, those aren't helpful.

So, why do you read my post that encourages you to use your brain and think about the 4 pages of considerate advice you've received from strangers on the internet who know nothing about you except your bad takes on sports, and come to that conclusion?

Everyone here is being beyond charitable towards you. If you read "Dude, actually consider our advice" and think "That's impossible. I might as well give up!" then we might as well lock this thread because you never had any intention of changing or improving yourself, and nothing we can say will change that.

Can I trust you and pm a pic of myself for an honest opinion on how ugly I am or not?

 

[Out of the Rafters at the Q]

Can I trust you and pm a pic of myself for an honest opinion on how ugly I am or not?

Why are you so fucking fixated on "am I physically attractive"?

Jesus fucking christ dude. Stop typing and READ. Nobody here is saying "Oh, the problem is you aren't hot enough. Go work out more and get those arms pumped!

Send me a pic of yourself if you want. I'll make it my avatar.