I think this is a vast oversimplification of how the body works.
It's not a question of how the body works. It's definitional. If you are a male, you have a male's brain. It might be a male's brain that displays a lot of characteristics usually found in a female's brain, but it is still the brain of a male.
You are absolutely right about the ranges, that's exactly how it would look. Is it so preposterous to say that someone has feminine characteristics in a male brain though?
It's not preposterous, but I don't think it's the best way to refer to it because it isn't a "feminine" brain. It's a male brain that displays characteristics more often found in female brains,
but that are found in other male brains as well. And I think referring to it as a "feminine brain", as you did in your initial post, is engaging in the type of "gender norming" that some people fight against. "Well, if you're good in math, that's a man thing."
Biologically, it
may be true that men have an advantage in math, but that's one step closer to "math is a man thing", which is the problem. Why can't it just be a male brain on a different part of the bell curve? Is a woman who has a larger amygdala than most women less "feminine"? Don't you see how completely loaded that word is in this context?
It seems you are just stubbornly denying calling anything in an XY body feminine because "by definition it's male".
I think "feminine" is a loaded term that includes all sorts of non-biologically based social constructs and baggage. Therefore, I'm sticking to male/female, which are terms that exist independent of social constructs. So, using male and female, would you say that a brain taken from a male that falls on the part of the male bell curve in which brains taken from females are usually found is a "male" brain, or a "female" brain?
If a guy has a hormone disorder and develops breasts is that not a typically feminine characteristic?
It's a typically female physical characteristic. Doesn't make him a woman, though, even if he decides he wants to be called one by the rest of society. Which is the ultimate issue being discussed.
If a hormonal exposure happens in a prenatal stage that causes the brain to develop as an average female brain despite being in a male body, is it so preposterous that the person would feel like a woman trapped in a man's body?
No.
Who are you to tell them "no you're a man cuz dicks", when everything else about their daily life feels like that of a woman? It is a real condition and a terrible one where you have to live a confusing life filled with other people telling you who you are.
Well, I'm not the guy walking up to trannies and saying "you know, you're really still a dude", if that's what you mean. But neither should I be the guy forced to adopt their definition of gender if I think another works better.
Look, for treatment/therapy purposes, I could care less how such a person chooses to view himself. Whatever floats his boat is fine by me. Nor do I care about which gender pronouns are used within his circle of friends, etc.. And if he wants to wear a miniskirt and call himself Loretta, it's not skin off my ass.
BUT, when it comes to how the rest of society determines gender, that's different. Because society, including me, has a perfectly legitimate interest in using
objective criteria to determine/refer to gender.
So, to answer "who are you", I'm the guy who relies on the male/female distinction for a huge range of reasons, from ordering clothes and knowing whether to ask where the men's department is, or which restroom to enter or to send my kids too, or for sports, or to track employment data to see if there is discrimination, or any number of other reasons relating to privacy or daily living. It is a very useful distinction which is precisely why it is so common, and that's why I think using
objective and
immutable criteria that can't change from day to day depending upon individual whim are preferable to the purely subjective "I am what I say I am, at least for the rest of today" alternative.
So, to flip this around,
who are you to tell me that I can't tell my kid that just because that man is wearing a dress and calling himself Shirley doesn't make him a woman?