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Find a mentor if you don't have one. Anti-depressants are also awesome to get you through rough times. Pick up some cheap hobbies to meet people - work out at the Y, join a softball team, go do charity at a homeless shelter, orphanage or meals-on-wheels so you realize how tough some other people have it.
A mentor is so key. You need someone you can constantly go to and ask questions. Talk to successful people and hang around successful people, you will be successful. Hang around with losers...or no one....you will struggle no matter your goals and dwell on your problems. Find people that get "it" and plaster them with questions, for suggestions, advice or whatever. Mentors love to carry people that want to succeed. They will create opportunities for you.
Anti-depressants really do work. They saved me. You don't need to use them forever, just long enough to get you through your rough stretch.
I know you think you have it bad, but it could be worse. We do some charity things through my kids school(our parish) to keep the kids honest from time to time. It's rewarding for the whole family and puts everything into persepctive. Yeah, i've had a ton of debt...i've had awful losses...but, i have my health, a roof over my head and food on the table.
It's all relative, everyone is different. Some people deal with major problems easily, some people have tough times with issues that don't seem so bad to others, but struggle mightily. When i was in my 20's i had to disconnect my wife from life support, got hooked on sleeping pills and other meds, got hit with 1.4M in medical bills and later declared bankruptcy when the economy tanked and the hospitals didn't want to settle. I'm not saying I had it worse than anyone else...again, everyone deals with things differently. But, i had it pretty bad. Don't look at your life as a whole and try to turn it all around in one year. Take baby steps. Set small goals and knock one off at a time. Meet some friends. Find a mentor. Chip away at your debt. Take it a freaking day at a time. Think positive and one day things will change. You'll meet a soul mate or get the lucky break you've been waiting for. You are a kid. The average person switches careers 6 times. You won't be doing retail forever.
I could go on for an hour, but much of what i believe has already been said. Hang in there. You'll be fine. Give it time...
A mentor is so key. You need someone you can constantly go to and ask questions. Talk to successful people and hang around successful people, you will be successful. Hang around with losers...or no one....you will struggle no matter your goals and dwell on your problems. Find people that get "it" and plaster them with questions, for suggestions, advice or whatever. Mentors love to carry people that want to succeed. They will create opportunities for you.
Anti-depressants really do work. They saved me. You don't need to use them forever, just long enough to get you through your rough stretch.
I know you think you have it bad, but it could be worse. We do some charity things through my kids school(our parish) to keep the kids honest from time to time. It's rewarding for the whole family and puts everything into persepctive. Yeah, i've had a ton of debt...i've had awful losses...but, i have my health, a roof over my head and food on the table.
It's all relative, everyone is different. Some people deal with major problems easily, some people have tough times with issues that don't seem so bad to others, but struggle mightily. When i was in my 20's i had to disconnect my wife from life support, got hooked on sleeping pills and other meds, got hit with 1.4M in medical bills and later declared bankruptcy when the economy tanked and the hospitals didn't want to settle. I'm not saying I had it worse than anyone else...again, everyone deals with things differently. But, i had it pretty bad. Don't look at your life as a whole and try to turn it all around in one year. Take baby steps. Set small goals and knock one off at a time. Meet some friends. Find a mentor. Chip away at your debt. Take it a freaking day at a time. Think positive and one day things will change. You'll meet a soul mate or get the lucky break you've been waiting for. You are a kid. The average person switches careers 6 times. You won't be doing retail forever.
I could go on for an hour, but much of what i believe has already been said. Hang in there. You'll be fine. Give it time...
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