• Changing RCF's index page, please click on "Forums" to access the forums.

Toddler thread

Do Not Sell My Personal Information
My daughter did the funniest thing last week

Put her in the bath, I'm sitting on the toilet

She squats down and puts a cup under herself and pees in it

I give her a nasty look, she returns a sheepish look, pauses a bit, holds the cup up in the air and exclaims "Taa daa!"

Pro level of comedic timing
 
Testing boundaries. That seems to be what they have the most fun with.

*Knock on wood* I think our 4-year-old daughter is daytime potty trained. It has been one of the most frustrating experiences. Would go a week or two just fine, then regress. Her teacher was out on maternity leave and when she came back, things got better. She's still in pull-ups at night, but we wanted to tackle one thing at a time.

I like to throw discs in the back yard, and she has a little tractor with a trailer that she drives around and picks them up. This summer is going to be fun in the back yard.
 
Have two.

Young kids are stressful as hell and exhausting with really amazing moments mixed in. They completely steal your previous life from you but give you this unique opportunity to mold a person in your chosen image. It’s a massive responsibility.

I think a lot of parents, esp new ones, stress about milestones. It’s normal, but there’s not a LOT you can do with the early ones. If your friends are intentionally making you feel bad or if you’re just a competitive person, I’d suggest you focus on something else. (Or get new friends)

I also think it’s normal to think your kid might have cancer once a month, could potentially be a sociopath, or to think just for a brief moment that if nobody would find out you’d consider leaving them outside for 6 weeks like in 300 to see if they can just fucking fight it out for themselves.

Our son is turning 9 in October. I learned not to stress about the milestones when our 3 yo turned about 6 months or so and it became clear all the comparisons are pointless. So much of it is wiring and circumstantial. It’s really our job to guide them and not put so many roadblocks in front of them that they can’t become whatever the best version of their authentic self is. A lot of it is projection and what we want, instead of what’s right for them if you think about it.

My son MOSTLY loves engineering stuff and reading. I think He plays sports mostly because I like sports. He happens to do well socially because he’s funny and a nice kid. He has more in common with my wife and a part of me that people don’t see a lot of. He’s been a big adjustment for me!

Our 3 yo if she was an adult would be the type of person I most struggle to get along without making serious concessions…aka someone that’s just like me! I love the shit out of her bc she’s fun, but she’s completely unyielding, out there, and just overall exhausting to deal with. But she’s my kid and if we can figure her the hell out, she’ll do great in life! Plus…as a dad, I want her to find someone somewhat like me except not as much of a prick when they were young, so we gotta figure it out fast.

I just think it’s really just crucial that we know when to push and when to just gtfo out of the way.

Kids all end up in the same place anyways…posting online in internet forums.
 
The Oi said:
Have two.

Young kids are stressful as hell and exhausting with really amazing moments mixed in. They completely steal your previous life from you but give you this unique opportunity to mold a person in your chosen image. It’s a massive responsibility.

I think a lot of parents, esp new ones, stress about milestones. It’s normal, but there’s not a LOT you can do with the early ones. If your friends are intentionally making you feel bad or if you’re just a competitive person, I’d suggest you focus on something else. (Or get new friends)

I also think it’s normal to think your kid might have cancer once a month, could potentially be a sociopath, or to think just for a brief moment that if nobody would find out you’d consider leaving them outside for 6 weeks like in 300 to see if they can just fucking fight it out for themselves.
Click to expand...
Play fighting with my wife and my daughter says "Wait, let me go into my playroom and grab a knife!"

Teaching her good self-defense or creating a serial killer...
 
N7RobBob said:
Play fighting with my wife and my daughter says "Wait, let me go into my playroom and grab a knife!"

Teaching her good self-defense or creating a serial killer...
Click to expand...
Krav maga!
 
The Oi said:
Have two.

Young kids are stressful as hell and exhausting with really amazing moments mixed in. They completely steal your previous life from you but give you this unique opportunity to mold a person in your chosen image. It’s a massive responsibility.

I think a lot of parents, esp new ones, stress about milestones. It’s normal, but there’s not a LOT you can do with the early ones. If your friends are intentionally making you feel bad or if you’re just a competitive person, I’d suggest you focus on something else. (Or get new friends)

I also think it’s normal to think your kid might have cancer once a month, could potentially be a sociopath, or to think just for a brief moment that if nobody would find out you’d consider leaving them outside for 6 weeks like in 300 to see if they can just fucking fight it out for themselves.

Our son is turning 9 in October. I learned not to stress about the milestones when our 3 yo turned about 6 months or so and it became clear all the comparisons are pointless. So much of it is wiring and circumstantial. It’s really our job to guide them and not put so many roadblocks in front of them that they can’t become whatever the best version of their authentic self is. A lot of it is projection and what we want, instead of what’s right for them if you think about it.

My son MOSTLY loves engineering stuff and reading. I think He plays sports mostly because I like sports. He happens to do well socially because he’s funny and a nice kid. He has more in common with my wife and a part of me that people don’t see a lot of. He’s been a big adjustment for me!

Our 3 yo if she was an adult would be the type of person I most struggle to get along without making serious concessions…aka someone that’s just like me! I love the shit out of her bc she’s fun, but she’s completely unyielding, out there, and just overall exhausting to deal with. But she’s my kid and if we can figure her the hell out, she’ll do great in life! Plus…as a dad, I want her to find someone somewhat like me except not as much of a prick when they were young, so we gotta figure it out fast.

I just think it’s really just crucial that we know when to push and when to just gtfo out of the way.

Kids all end up in the same place anyways…posting online in internet forums.
Click to expand...
Good points!

Y'know the CDC never even had milestones until 2004. I learned that when I asked my dad and sister when I started pointing, etc., and they said "I have no idea," and so I looked into the milestone thing...and it's a very recent phenomenon. No wonder they don't remember. My baby book doesn't have any of that stuff in it. It wouldn't surprise me if I skipped pointing entirely. A lack of pointing can be a marker for autism, but people didn't know that back in the mid 1980s when I was a baby/toddler. I actually had several autism markers when I was a kid that people just didn't know about when I was a kid in the 1980s and 1990s (poor eye contact, difficulty with toilet training, problems tying shoes, etc.). Now, even if son ends up inheriting it from me, it can be screened early at 18 months when lack of pointing starts to be considered a serious issue, so we'll see how it goes. He has great eye contact though, which I didn't, so that's a positive sign. :)
 
Bluey is good but Paw Patrol owns my daughters imagination, plays with her figurines every day and sends them on adventures it's pretty hilarious. She pretends she's Rider and uses a toy cellphone to call them into action, with all the catchphrases from the show. Bluey will probably make more sense to her when she is older. For now, anthropomorphic dogs that save the day is fine. At least she learns its not the size of the dog in the fight it's the size of the fight in the dog (no job is too big, no pup is too small).
 
My little dude isn't very interested in screens and shows, at least yet at 15 months. He can listen to some nursery rhymes on YouTube for a few minutes (he will smile and sway to any music whether instrumental or sung), but that's about it. Some random Internet moms said I should have him watch Ms. Rachel to learn how to point a couple of months ago, but contrary to their wisdom, he tuned Ms. Rachel out, and still doesn't point (pediatrician wasn't worried because he reaches for stuff and uses other gestures and communication methods). My husband and I are also sad that he doesn't get interested in books and stories yet, either. He much prefers to just run around and throw stuff. Apparently his mindset is, why sit around and watch something or listen to something when you can move and fling things?
 
CBBI said:
Bluey is great. My 4 month old is enthralled. I prefer it over Paw Patrol for sure.
Click to expand...
For sure.

While Sesame Street is better at academic learning, Bluey is the best show I've found at emotional learning--and it's quite good for the parents watching as well.

It's also not pro-fascist copaganda like Paw Patrol. 40% of those pups go home and growl at their owner. Bad dogs all around!
 
More a question about parents than their kids, and sorry to bring the mood down but I have to ask: Did you all find yourself extra sensitive to depressing news stories about children being harmed after you had kids? Always been a very empathetic person and sensitive to human suffering, but ever since becoming a dad I just can’t handle seeing that shit on the news or on social media and whatnot. It just tears me up inside, affects my mood for the day, etc.

I’m starting to go out of my way to avoid stuff like that. I think I had been desensitized after years and years and having my daughter just opened up that vulnerable part of my psyche again. :/
 
Chris said:
More a question about parents than their kids, and sorry to bring the mood down but I have to ask: Did you all find yourself extra sensitive to depressing news stories about children being harmed after you had kids? Always been a very empathetic person and sensitive to human suffering, but ever since becoming a dad I just can’t handle seeing that shit on the news or on social media and whatnot. It just tears me up inside, affects my mood for the day, etc.

I’m starting to go out of my way to avoid stuff like that. I think I had been desensitized after years and years and having my daughter just opened up that vulnerable part of my psyche again. :/
Click to expand...
Yep. A lot of times when I go to look up "toddler" for information, I get occasional horror news stories pop up on search. :(
 
You must log in or register to reply here.

Rubber Rim Job Podcast Video

Episode 3-14: "Time for Playoff Vengeance on Mickey"

Rubber Rim Job Podcast Spotify

Episode 3:14: " Time for Playoff Vengeance on Mickey."
Top