One word, three syllables, eight letters, so much baggage.
Once meant as a way to classify people who needed help, the R-word became something else entirely, something mean -- like a schoolyard bully picking on outcasts and not letting them up. Then it became a code word to make fun of others while making ourselves feel superior. Why, the favorite athlete of millions used it not just once, but twice, to put down reporters he felt were asking dumb questions.
"Open up your vocabulary, people," says Cleveland Browns cornerback Joe Haden. "The R-word is hurtful, hateful and ignorant. Like the N-word, it should not be part of our language."
Haden is the first NFL player to be named a Special Olympics Global Ambassador, and the 26-year-old worked Radio Row at the Super Bowl this year to help the movement called
Spread The Word To End The Word. Created in February 2009 in conjunction with the World Winter Games, Spread The Word can now count more than 500,000 online pledges to end the use of the slur and its variants. Millions more have signed the pledge on banners and petitions around the world.
Haden's involvement in the Special Olympics began because of his relationship with
his brother Jacob, who is five years younger and has a cognitive disorder that limits his language and speech. "He's just a really cool kid, a blessing to me and my family," says Haden. "I play for him, and I would do anything for him."
Then there's the matter of
LeBron James' unfortunate choice of language. Twice, in 2011 and 2014, he deployed the word to dismiss questions he thought were stupid. But it's a measure of progress that the reactions were much stronger the second time. Back in 2011, an article about his slip on CBSSports.com was greeted with such comments as, "The heck with political correctness," "Get over it" and "This article and this issue is 'retarded.'" When he threw the word out there again in January 2014, though, the reaction was so vociferous that he felt the need to issue this apology: "I used the word 'retarded' before. Obviously, it had nothing to do with kids that are underprivileged. There's no knock on them. It's a word that's been around for a long time where I grew [up]. It's a bad habit, so I try to break it. If I use it again, I'm going to try to do my best not to. I mean no disrespect."
Though Haden and James both play in Cleveland, Haden says he hasn't talked to James about his use of the word. "I think he's learned that lesson," says Haden. "Besides, there are other lessons to learn.
I would encourage him, or anyone, to go to a Special Olympics event. That's where you'll see the pure joy of competition, a joy we should all remember, no matter how big we get."