It can be valuable because honest, unprotected feedback about your looks and personality can have value as long as you don't put too much stock in it.
I don't enjoy it with first date vibes because so much is clearly rehearsed and/or made to look pretty on both sides.
What I love is getting into conversations about people's experiences, what they're passionate about, how they see the world, etc.
I enjoy shooting the shit with people at the bar exponentially more than first dates.
Best talks I have had over the years that truly made me closer to the individual were when I talked about geniuine every day life, the struggles, the things that really make me happy and not the bullshit superficial stuff..
They mostly happened with real bros and not whoes.. girls my age are still clueless.
I have had great talks and even sexual relationships with women that were older.. women are naturally better listeners, compassionate, they are more sympathetic and sensitive to personal struggles and try to find resolution within the constraints of your current limitations, rather than give general tips and advice the ordinary.
Most talks that I have had with normal, functioning men were always sort of the same. " take your shit together, find a profession, things will take care of themselves once you get into structure" "why the fuck are you depressed about?" etc...
Most men don't get depression and the onset of depression usually starts at 40-50 once the hormones are out of balance. So I never really talk about the shit that bother me really and try to blend in with the rest.
It's just the difference in biology.. once women give birth, they become an estrogen mess that is prone to mood swings. High Testosterone otoh keeps men stable and immune to feeling of depression and understanding how brutal it is or other shit that is out of the norm. That's why women say all men are the same.
And yet, hanging out with men when you are feeling great is infinitely better. I just wish I was normal again.