This is parenting i can support

[Chardon]

We need more dads like Hank Hill.

 

[MoFlo]

Question, how many kids you got?

What that man did was beyond badass, it's what more parents need to do. Ever since it became illegal/child abuse to spank your child, we've seen generation after generation of kids become more out of control, more violent, more everything. You can't physically punish a kid, you physically punish all the shit the kid holds dear.

But you being the parenting expert, what is a more "constructive" way to get through to her? Were you going to sit her down in a pastel colored room with easy listening blasting throughout the speakers and have a therapy session with her?

First of all, I never claimed to be a "parenting expert", so here we go putting words in each other's mouths again...

Second of all, I don't have any kids, but it's common fucking sense. If my parent shot a bullet around me, you'll be damned sure I would have been out of that fucking house the first chance I got, and it would be a long fucking time before I talked to them again.

I'm not even one to condone hitting a child, but even that's one thing compared to pulling out a fucking gun.

Hmm.. did he try taking the laptop away (Didn't pay too much attention to the video, admittedly) for a few months? Hell, SMASHING the fucking thing or throwing it away would've been better than shooting a f'ng bullet.

Did she become violent with him? Did she try & hit him? Didn't think so..

She disobeyed, JUST LIKE ANY TEENAGER. And he shot a fucking bullet.

This isn't one of those instances you see on T.V where the daughter bitch slaps the mother constantly & they go all out with military training bullshit. She fucking disobeyed, just like every other teenager since the fucking world started.

I admittedly treated my mother like crap at times, raised my voice, disobeyed, didn't listen, etc. She never hit me, never shot a bullet at me, never even raised a fist at me. And I've turned out perfectly fine, and anyone who knows me personally knows that I'm almost impossible to hate..

You know why? BECAUSE MY MOTHER KNEW HOW TO PARENT. She was a single mother, raising 3 kids. Never even raised a hand to us. We've all turned out fine.

Everybody wants to put the blame on other people instead of taking responsibility for their own actions. As I said, he could've taken it away or even thrown it away. All teenagers are going to act up, that's a fact. It's a part of life.

 

[Man Called X]

First of all, I never claimed to be a "parenting expert", so here we go putting words in each other's mouths again...

Second of all, I don't have any kids, but it's common fucking sense. If my parent shot a bullet around me, you'll be damned sure I would have been out of that fucking house the first chance I got, and it would be a long fucking time before I talked to them again.

I'm not even one to condone hitting a child, but even that's one thing compared to pulling out a fucking gun.

Hmm.. did he try taking the laptop away (Didn't pay too much attention to the video, admittedly) for a few months? Hell, SMASHING the fucking thing or throwing it away would've been better than shooting a f'ng bullet.

Did she become violent with him? Did she try & hit him? Didn't think so..

She disobeyed, JUST LIKE ANY TEENAGER. And he shot a fucking bullet.

This isn't one of those instances you see on T.V where the daughter bitch slaps the mother constantly & they go all out with military training bullshit. She fucking disobeyed, just like every other teenager since the fucking world started.

I admittedly treated my mother like crap at times, raised my voice, disobeyed, didn't listen, etc. She never hit me, never shot a bullet at me, never even raised a fist at me. And I've turned out perfectly fine, and anyone who knows me personally knows that I'm almost impossible to hate..

You know why? BECAUSE MY MOTHER KNEW HOW TO PARENT. She was a single mother, raising 3 kids. Never even raised a hand to us. We've all turned out fine.

Everybody wants to put the blame on other people instead of taking responsibility for their own actions. As I said, he could've taken it away or even thrown it away. All teenagers are going to act up, that's a fact. It's a part of life.

You make it out like he put the fucking thing on top of her head and shot it. smdh

 

[MoFlo]

Parents not doing shit like this, not teaching their stupid kids to be respectful, and not teaching their stupid fucking kids that good things in life are earned not given...are the people that cause us to become a lame ass, soft entitlement society.

Good for him. Fuck the stupid kid.

The thing is.. if you teach your "stupid kids" to be respectful, they'll turn out just fine, no matter if you take this hard ass approach or not...

 

[MoFlo]

You make it out like he put the fucking thing on top of her head and shot it. smdh

You make it out like he gave her a teddy bear & a hug. smdh

 

[BlueSeats626]

And the pussification of America continues.....I'm honestly surprised the dad is getting backlash over this. Its supposed to be upsetting to the kid. I got smacked/spanked as a kid and am better for it. Parents these days want to be friends with their kids and are too scared to actually parent or punish them.

Betcha this brat will think twice about talking about shit about her mom/dad/cleaning lady again.

 

[Marcus]

I can't help but laugh at all the people that are calling this child abuse and saying he was too harsh... a few things:


1. Most of them probably don't have kids of their own, because if they did, they would understand the need for punishment and discipline in raising a child to help ensure that they don't grow up to be a criminal, a hooker, or dead by the age of 25 from drugs, alcohol, or murder.

2. People that think like that, in my opinion, are enablers. They are soft as marshmallows and they are directly to blame for how fucked up a lot of our youth is today. Many of the kids that end up in gangs or in juvie nowadays probably wouldn't end up there if they had strong parental figures that actually gave a shit about what they were up to and their well being. Instead, people just want to turn a blind eye when their kids fuck up and continue to give them handouts. Sometimes a kid just really needs a good ass whooping, but once again, our soft society says, "No, no, NO!!! You CAN'T give them any sort of physical discipline to help ensure they won't act that way again!!! It's MUCH better to continue to let your spoiled, delinquent offspring walk all over you like you are lower than dog shit." My parents and I had disagreements when I was growing up, but I would NEVER have done what this little bitch did to her parents.

3. This is ESPECIALLY for all the people who have a problem with him making the video in the first place -- guess what, she picked the venue by posting information on a PUBLIC DOMAIN where literally anyone, anywhere could read it. All the father did was give a response in the venue that was already selected by his daughter.

4. This wasn't the first time it had happened, either, so I know I speak for plenty of other people when I say that she had it coming. I just wish more parents would step up like this guy has -- maybe not by making a viral video or putting an entire clip of hollow points into their laptops, but by showing their kids that they won't allow them to walk all over them, that they are parents and they deserve respect.

 

[Silky Smooth]

I don't understand why the daughter would say she has a million chores but her dad says she has a couple things to do. Someone's lying but I'm not calling out the one with the gun.

 

[Layne Staley]

Let's be honest here guys, everybody has their ideal ways on how to be a good parent and raise a kid the right way, but until you actualy have kids and go through that Experiance first hand... Youre just speaking out of your ass.

 

[Kouki]

I'm speaking out of my ass when I say I am all for tough parenting (wish my parents were a lot tougher on me) but I think what the guy did was pretty lame. He did just what his teenage girl did. And you could tell he was shaking in his own boots while making that video, like he was trying to be over-the-top to be a badass.

I feel that neither side of the story is telling the whole truth. I doubt it would have gotten "this bad" if neither side was exaggerating a bit.

 

[gourimoko]

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Good for him..

.....Just for the record, I'm a father of three children - my daughter is the eldest.

While he has every right to be upset, and has every right to destroy her (his) property, the very tricky thing about raising kids (especially girls) is that you must be extremely cautious, rational, and deliberate in your actions including when you discipline them or when you reward their behavior.

I do not think this form of discipline will result in the parents' desired outcome, and that's why IMO it's not constructive parenting. If he thinks he's teaching his daughter a lesson, he may not realize that the actual lesson learned is that her father is overbearing, intruding upon her private life, and she may even be frightened of him; especially after shooting her laptop.

I just can't think that such a public display of aggression towards one's own daughter who is nearing sexual maturity could possibly have a positive outcome. I would go so far as to say within a year, she will invest her chastity in the very first guy who pays her enough attention to fill the void left by her father.

Point being: speak to your kids in a language they understand. He'd have been much better off sitting her down and just talking to her, emotionally and looking for an empathetic response. He could've simply said "this isn't only disrespectful, but it hurts to hear this from you - my daughter of all people." I just highly doubt this will evoke the desired outcome, and it's unfortunately because it seems obvious he genuinely cares about his child.

p.s.
I am aware that he did try talking to her before, but he grounded her for "3 months" at the conclusion of that conversation. That's a long ass time; hell, I've never been grounded for 3 months. We don't really know what she did to deserve it though. Also, we must assume that some of what she said in her post was true. If she's really doing chores until 10pm that's questionable at best. Now she's probably exaggerating, but still, so is he. The truth lies in the middle somewhere, I'm sure.

 

[Marcus]

From Tommy Jordan's (the father's) Facebook, in response to an email question from a reporter:


"People were telling her she was going to commit suicide, commit a gun-related crime, become a drug addict, drop out of school, get pregnant on purpose, and become a stripper because she’s too emotionally damaged now to be a productive member of society. Apparently stripper was the job-choice of most of the commenters. Her response was “Dude… it’s only a computer. I mean, yeah I’m mad but pfft.” She actually asked me to post a comment on one of the threads (and I did) asking what other job fields the victims of laptop-homicide were eligible for because she wasn’t too keen on the stripping thing."

 

[Man Called X]

From Tommy Jordan's (the father's) Facebook, in response to an email question from a reporter:


"People were telling her she was going to commit suicide, commit a gun-related crime, become a drug addict, drop out of school, get pregnant on purpose, and become a stripper because she’s too emotionally damaged now to be a productive member of society. Apparently stripper was the job-choice of most of the commenters. Her response was “Dude… it’s only a computer. I mean, yeah I’m mad but pfft.” She actually asked me to post a comment on one of the threads (and I did) asking what other job fields the victims of laptop-homicide were eligible for because she wasn’t too keen on the stripping thing."

Wait, you mean bitch learned her lesson and isn't horribly out of touch with society because her dad shot her laptop? Christ, I thought she already had 2 abortions from the time that video was posted til today.

 

[caf]

As a child I was only allowed 1 hour of TV per week. So to keep myself busy I either had to read or play outside with my brother. It was pretty fun, we had a pond and a boat and some blue gill to fish. Wandering through woods and such.

We also had chores out the ass. If we didn't do our chores, we got more chores. Our house was gas heated, but to cut down on the heating cost we also had wood fireplaces. One of our chores was to wheelbarrel wood to the back of the house. Mind you, I was eight years old at the time. If we talked back, chores.

I was, however, rewarded with a GameBoy for christmas due to good behavior.

But I was taught from a young age not to expect things. If I wanted something I had to earn it. Most people would call that child labor now a days. Kind of bull shit.

 

[RonG]

I am going to tell you the best thing about kids my grandmother ever told me.

"They do not come with manuals, raising kids is on the job training and by the time you know what you are doing you are out of a job."
I have 4 kids they were all different it has been a real struggle at times and my grandmother was a wise woman, her advice help me keep my sanity more than once.