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Why have kids?
Sure, kids seem fun when they are 3-10 and they aren't yours...but in this world? Many of my coworkers have troubled adult children, there is a severe lack of social mobility in the world today, life is very very challenging as adults. I also have a number of friends who now have young kids and some have flat out told me not to do it. And most seem to have had kids to give meaning to THEIR lives. Not so much because life is so great we must create new humans so they can experience it. No...it's I always wanted kids. I want to have a family. I this...I that. My sister had kids to save her marriage...and guess how that worked out... and now there are two new humans who have to navigate this world and deal with societal pressures because two twenty-somethings wanted to save their relationship. It's batty I tell you.
And of course your parents want you to have kids....to give meaning to their lives again. Grandkids represent hopes and dreams..and young kids are cute. The reality is your dullard adult children likely did not achieve those same hopes and dreams. (for most people).
I certainly understand why people end up having kids, but philosophically speaking why do it? Must we keep the species going?
I don't dislike kids, I just wonder why keep the cycle going?
1. Become adult
2. Search for meaning in life
3. Have children to give life meaning. Live through children lives.
4. Children become adults.
5. Children search for meaning in life.
6. Children have children to give life meaning.
7. Repeat ad infinitum.
Even back in the day people had children so they could help farm. Is that really a good reason?
And before you reply with "My life was never more complete than it is now that I have kids." Again, that means you had kids for you. I just am not sure I get it.
Sure, kids seem fun when they are 3-10 and they aren't yours...but in this world? Many of my coworkers have troubled adult children, there is a severe lack of social mobility in the world today, life is very very challenging as adults. I also have a number of friends who now have young kids and some have flat out told me not to do it. And most seem to have had kids to give meaning to THEIR lives. Not so much because life is so great we must create new humans so they can experience it. No...it's I always wanted kids. I want to have a family. I this...I that. My sister had kids to save her marriage...and guess how that worked out... and now there are two new humans who have to navigate this world and deal with societal pressures because two twenty-somethings wanted to save their relationship. It's batty I tell you.
And of course your parents want you to have kids....to give meaning to their lives again. Grandkids represent hopes and dreams..and young kids are cute. The reality is your dullard adult children likely did not achieve those same hopes and dreams. (for most people).
I certainly understand why people end up having kids, but philosophically speaking why do it? Must we keep the species going?
I don't dislike kids, I just wonder why keep the cycle going?
1. Become adult
2. Search for meaning in life
3. Have children to give life meaning. Live through children lives.
4. Children become adults.
5. Children search for meaning in life.
6. Children have children to give life meaning.
7. Repeat ad infinitum.
Even back in the day people had children so they could help farm. Is that really a good reason?
And before you reply with "My life was never more complete than it is now that I have kids." Again, that means you had kids for you. I just am not sure I get it.