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Marcus said:
Raising a kid for the first time without any sort of nearby support system absolutely fucking sucks.

Best we can get is uninvolved family members calling and texting from hundreds, if not thousands of miles away to give us unsolicited parenting advice and question our decisions as parents, despite the fact that the vast majority of them have yet to actually meet our baby in person (and have made no effort to do so).

Otherwise healthy and happy baby is inconsolable lately. Taking her to the doctor today… hoping it is just something minor like her starting to teethe. It just sucks and I feel like a bad parent because she’s clearly uncomfortable about something and I haven’t been able to fix it.

Sorry… tired, overworked dad just needed to vent.
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It's rough man. I don't think my wife and I understand how on our own we were going to be. I think we got one date night that first year, also covid the year after. My dad and his gf are too old, her mom 3 hours away, estranged dad 6 hours. Her brother 3 hrs away, mine 3 time zones away. Friends didn't really have kids.

Then we decided to move further away from our friends for more peace and quiet, sorry akron.

Balance as best you can and let each other know when they get too close to their breaking point. Keep talking with those friends that are to far away and keep venting here, there, or anywhere.
 
Marcus said:
Raising a kid for the first time without any sort of nearby support system absolutely fucking sucks.

Best we can get is uninvolved family members calling and texting from hundreds, if not thousands of miles away to give us unsolicited parenting advice and question our decisions as parents, despite the fact that the vast majority of them have yet to actually meet our baby in person (and have made no effort to do so).

Otherwise healthy and happy baby is inconsolable lately. Taking her to the doctor today… hoping it is just something minor like her starting to teethe. It just sucks and I feel like a bad parent because she’s clearly uncomfortable about something and I haven’t been able to fix it.

Sorry… tired, overworked dad just needed to vent.
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It’s definitely difficult. My wife and I are 1,000 miles from our parents and we each only have one at this point. It makes it difficult to raise our now 8 month old without grandparents there to watch when we need a break.

You’ll get through it, though. Continue to be present for one another and support each other. Also lean on any friends you have with children. They can be a big help and are usually happy to assist. You’ve got this, best of luck!
 
I'm definitely thankful my husband's family lives nearby, and that I've always gotten along well with them (no in-law drama). His dad has babysat a number of times for our little guy this year -- in fact, he's planning on coming tomorrow so husband and I can go out to a restaurant for our six year wedding anniversary.

If you're ever sick of the house and need some kind of social outlet for the baby, one thing I recommend is taking the baby to a library program geared toward very young children. I started taking the little guy to a 10 am Wednesday program at the nearby library. For an hour, a lady sings songs, reads stories, and has some free play-time for kids ranging from infancy to Kindergarten. It lasts an hour, and it's a welcome break from the house, or even strolls, which are becoming less practical and common due to the weather.
 
Benway said:
But does he toddle?
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Not quite! He pulls up to stand constantly and easily, but I'm helping him take mini steps. He can't cruise or walk without assistance yet.

He threw his first tantrum late last night though, lol. At first I thought he just needed some Mom hugs, so I gave those. What he REALLY wanted was to crawl around the kitchen and pinch the cats, though. When he was put in his room to sleep instead, it was 15 minutes of dramatic RRRRRROOOOOAAAARRRR WHY CAN'T I PLAY WITH FLUFFY AT THIS UNEARTHLY HOUR before he remembered he was, indeed, tired, and crashed.

He's a happy baby again this morning!
 
Marcus said:
Did daylight savings just completely fuck up anyone else’s schedule for awhile?
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My daughter is 6- Arizona doesn’t do DS, but it’s been an absolute struggle to get her to understand bed times. Wanting to go to bed at 6 type shit.

Not sure if this one’s gunna get better!
 
KevinLoveFan said:
Not quite! He pulls up to stand constantly and easily, but I'm helping him take mini steps. He can't cruise or walk without assistance yet.

He threw his first tantrum late last night though, lol. At first I thought he just needed some Mom hugs, so I gave those. What he REALLY wanted was to crawl around the kitchen and pinch the cats, though. When he was put in his room to sleep instead, it was 15 minutes of dramatic RRRRRROOOOOAAAARRRR WHY CAN'T I PLAY WITH FLUFFY AT THIS UNEARTHLY HOUR before he remembered he was, indeed, tired, and crashed.

He's a happy baby again this morning!
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What has worked best for me for both napping and nighttime is putting them in the crib. My daughter either falls asleep after crying for a few minutes, or if I can tell that isn't going to happen, I take her back out and she falls asleep on me in minutes. Usually I try to let her wind down naturally but there are times when you need to force the issue, lol.

Yesterday she woke up at 5:30 (normal is ~7:30-8), baby momma had her until ~noon. Fell asleep on the way to my house, meaning she didn't go down for a nap until like 3. Woke up as the sun was going down and was not happy. I let her take an hour long bath as it was the only reprise from her bad mood...plus that is actually my best opportunity to watch Cavs games now, sitting on the toilet while my daughter takes a bath. All done? No? OK...I'm surprised I haven't run out of hot water yet.
 
Kouki said:
What has worked best for me for both napping and nighttime is putting them in the crib. My daughter either falls asleep after crying for a few minutes, or if I can tell that isn't going to happen, I take her back out and she falls asleep on me in minutes. Usually I try to let her wind down naturally but there are times when you need to force the issue, lol.

Yesterday she woke up at 5:30 (normal is ~7:30-8), baby momma had her until ~noon. Fell asleep on the way to my house, meaning she didn't go down for a nap until like 3. Woke up as the sun was going down and was not happy. I let her take an hour long bath as it was the only reprise from her bad mood...plus that is actually my best opportunity to watch Cavs games now, sitting on the toilet while my daughter takes a bath. All done? No? OK...I'm surprised I haven't run out of hot water yet.
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My little dude prefers falling asleep in the playpen in his baby room most of the time now, and that's where husband prefers to set him, but I still have him use the crib as well (we originally wanted the crib in his room, but husband build it outside, and when we went to try to fit it through the doorway, it...didn't fit, lol, so the crib is in the living room). He's usually a great sleeper and falls asleep on his own without complaint between 7ish pm and 10ish pm, and has the ideal two naps of 1-2 hours each for his age, but last night he was up past 11.
 
We totally fucked up sleep with both kids. Disaster.

Love my kids. Total disaster scenarios for sleep.
 
The Oi said:
We totally fucked up sleep with both kids. Disaster.

Love my kids. Total disaster scenarios for sleep.
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Nothing a rag soaked in ether can't handle!
 
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