Don’t mind sharing. Firstly, maybe it will be helpful to others. Second, I’ve put a lot of hard fucking work into the changes I’ve made and it’s worth discussing. As you mention, I’m going to stay out of details on my childhood below because I don’t like trauma dumping and it’s not helpful for me or anyone else to relive it at this point, but it should give some perspective.
@Scrote Squad EMDR is simply bilateral (left and right brain) stimulation. It helps you to walk through traumatic memories that you are holding in your body and brain. You might watch a dot go back and forth or hold a paddle in your left and right hand. Or you could even tap your left and right shoulder. You will feel this strange blocking sensation in your mind when it is working properly. Tough to explain until you experience it. Interestingly, if you chew gum while you play sports you may notice a “grounding” experience or that it helps you get into the zone more easily. This is bilateral stimulation.
Once the stimulation begins you talk through the painful memory out loud, with brief pauses. You will find that each memory is connected to other memories like a root system. We bury some of these and can’t get to them unless we allow ourselves to work through them. But all of them impact our bodies. Literally. There’s a groundbreaking book about it called The Body Keeps The Score that describes how trauma is stored in the body until we take action to root it out. EMDR does this, as far as I’m aware it does it more efficiently than any other form of therapy.
I have used it for c-ptsd, which is notoriously difficult to treat and requires long term treatment and a lot of motivation from the patient. I do a lot of additional work for it outside of EMDR as well, but the emdr itself helps to work through the actual traumatic memories. I find that because I had so many traumatic memories and such an awful internal narrative, it was really the only option.
My experience has been that I’ve come upon lifechanging epiphanies during sessions several times that completely changed my method of thinking. I have been “flooded” several times when I’ve had the big life changing moments where my perception of the world up to that point was literally flipped upon itself. I have had experiences where the room started spinning and vibrating and I almost had a panic attack on the big moments. Felt like I was in Inception. These were also huge trauma events I was exposing and forcing myself to accept as false narratives, ones that had up until that time completely defined me. In that moment…snipped.
Pardon the simplicity here, but the best way I can define a timeline is something like this for me. Not the same way for everyone.
Session 1: I’m desperate for a solution to all these problems in my life that i dont understand
Session 2: oh shit I remember that happening. I’m a little afraid to talk about it
Session 5: she was doing that shit to me on purpose?! What an awful cunt. At least now I know it wasnt my fault.
Session 10: all of these events that i have processed no longer define me. There are more to go but i am more than the awful things that have happened
Session 15: i am discovering what i am meant for. I am disconnecting from those awful experiences and the people that caused them
That’s where I am now. It’s been a journey and I feel like a new person than the one that started the therapy. Granted, I watch some great content on c-ptsd, meditate, exercise and I have made pretty drastic life changes that have made this all much easier. So it’s not ALL EMDR. But I’d say EMDR is a pretty powerful tool in the toolbox.
@camakazee if you don’t mind me asking, what was the issue you found with it?