The mental health thread

[Blink]

Seeking out a medically-induced coma to deal with addiction isn't alternative medicine? It's something that isn't done over here. It definitely seems like an alternative to Western medicine that's only practiced in Russia and neighboring states, with no clear benefit and lots of potential risks.

Studies say that putting someone in a coma to deal with the worst effects of withdrawal does not lead to any higher chance the subject is cured of his initial addiction, and there are many obvious health risks to this.

So, why are you stating this "isn't an indicator of alternative medicine"?

My impression was that he was put in a coma due to pneumonia, not withdrawal symptoms.

I think the lesson here is that the article was a horribly written mashup of information without clear causal relationships or timelines.

 

[Out of the Rafters at the Q]

My impression was that he was put in a coma due to pneumonia, not withdrawal symptoms.

I think the lesson here is that the article was a horribly written mashup of information without clear causal relationships or timelines.

I had read that he sought out the medically-induced coma for withdrawal symptoms and complications may have arisen due to the fact that he sought this treatment out while also having pneumonia.

I agree that it's a poorly written article.

 

[Man Called X]

I'm beyond stumped why anyone with psoriasis would think an all beef diet would take care of the problem. Cutting out red meat was what made my psoriasis go away. But I'm not willing to live on chicken and fish and thus fuck my flaky ass elbows and scalp.

 

[David.]

Jordan Peterson's family reveals he 'nearly died' in the ICU following monthslong health scare, physical dependence on benzodiazepines

Canadian author is recovering at health facility in Russia, his daughter says

www.theblaze.com

 

[Kouki]

hi

found out this week that my wife is pregnant

otherwise we were going to get a divorce

so

i'm pretty fucked up atm

 

[The Oi]

hi

found out this week that my wife is pregnant

otherwise we were going to get a divorce

so

i'm pretty fucked up atm

So definitely not getting divorced now because of the baby? Is the baby reason enough to stay together?

Think someone else here stayed with a baby being a big factor in why. Initials guy. Could ask him. @DJTJ of @MGMT cNt remember which.

 

[Kouki]

i should clarify i guess. we weren't going through the divorce process but we have talked about it a few times. she makes zero effort to work on our relationship. this feels like a terrible thing to say but i feel like i dont even know her and what i do know i don't like.

the pregnancy just brought things to the forefront.

she thinks her clock is ticking. we are early thirties. been married for 3.5 years and got together in college.

in the last year or so she discovered that going out and drinking with friends is fun so now she does that like three times a week. guys, girls, whatever. never w me. she doesnt like me.

we are barely functioning roommates

for all i know she is cheating or has cheated on me

feels bad man

i'm a good person

 

[CleveRocks]

i should clarify i guess. we weren't going through the divorce process but we have talked about it a few times. she makes zero effort to work on our relationship. this feels like a terrible thing to say but i feel like i dont even know her and what i do know i don't like.

the pregnancy just brought things to the forefront.

she thinks her clock is ticking. we are early thirties. been married for 3.5 years and got together in college.

in the last year or so she discovered that going out and drinking with friends is fun so now she does that like three times a week. guys, girls, whatever. never w me. she doesnt like me.

we are barely functioning roommates

for all i know she is cheating or has cheated on me

feels bad man

i'm a good person

I am no Psychologist.. but I think I have been where you are...counseling is where you need to go.there are online counselors who can help.. But the first part is don't assume she doesn't like you because she wants to go out..

Second thing, are either of you ADHD? If you have not been evaluated, consider a self evaluation and if it's clear or close, make sure you choose a counselor with experience in that area.. there are some good books on ADHD marital problems. Read one. You will recognize patterns if this is a vector

The baby is a terrible reason to stay together.. Children put stress on a marriage, and you both need to be committed to get through it..

There are many options.

Talk to each other. Make no assumptions that you will stay together, but commit, both of you to love and respect during the conversation..
It will not be an easy thing. Took me three years to come out ok.. But you will be OK..

 

[Kouki]

I had been going to counseling for a while. Generally every two to four weeks. Should schedule another one. Last time I was supposed to go I had to duck out cause my dad had surgery.

Not sure if either of us are ADHD. I'm assuming my therapist would have picked up on it. I can ask.

She is starting to go to counseling, apparently.

She has refused to go to marriage counseling. In her mind she lost the love she had for me, if she ever loved me, and it aint coming back so why bother. She said she didn't love me when we got married. She said I'm not the one for her, etc etc. I'm not assuming she doesn't like me because she wants to go out. I don't care that she wants to go out. It does bother me she chooses to go out with other people but I can't blame her because we never have fun together, partially lately just because there is this underlying shit.

Now I can't even talk to her because it will just come off as pathetic loneliness or whatever. She doesn't want to do anything to even give me hope that things will be OK.

It's really fucked up man.

 

[CleveRocks]

I had been going to counseling for a while. Generally every two to four weeks. Should schedule another one. Last time I was supposed to go I had to duck out cause my dad had surgery.

Not sure if either of us are ADHD. I'm assuming my therapist would have picked up on it. I can ask.

She is starting to go to counseling, apparently.

She has refused to go to marriage counseling. In her mind she lost the love she had for me, if she ever loved me, and it aint coming back so why bother. She said she didn't love me when we got married. She said I'm not the one for her, etc etc. I'm not assuming she doesn't like me because she wants to go out. I don't care that she wants to go out. It does bother me she chooses to go out with other people but I can't blame her because we never have fun together, partially lately just because there is this underlying shit.

Now I can't even talk to her because it will just come off as pathetic loneliness or whatever. She doesn't want to do anything to even give me hope that things will be OK.

It's really fucked up man.

So going to counseling was for me a once a week thing. If she won't work on it, then go for you.. but at this point the baby is a terrible idea, and is unrelated to wether or not you stay together..

So there is a whole death do us part thing, she seems to think isn't meaningful. You might remind her that marriage was a contract, upon which you planned a future. She doesn't want to be a part of that, ok.. but she should take some responsibility for it..

The reason I mention ADHD, is that one of the symptoms is a flash relationship pattern, where everything starts awesome, and then becomes stale in a few years.. so read the book, you will know if it applies to you.. it might not be relevant, but you will know, when you see it..

If it is relevant, most adult counselors have little experience with ADHD, and can be clueless about how to help.. look for a counselor with experience

 

[Kouki]

Ugh they are only doing teleconference therapy. This sucks.

 

[Deezus]

@IWantAKouki

You mentioned she was going out drinking with other dudes and she may be cheating or has cheated... Don't you think a paternity test is a good idea? Are you guys still having sex regularly? I mean... if I felt that way about a girl I was in a relationship with and she suddenly became pregnant, I wouldn't just assume it was mine. She probably won't like it, but I would insist.

 

[David.]

Starting to get panic attacks if I have free time. If I don't have work (today I'm shut down bc of riots) I don't know what to do, and I start thinning too much and I panic. I feel very alone. I see people every day but.. I just do. I literally have socialized every day for 2 weeks but it's still there. No romantic prospects is what it actually is. I get attention, it still isn't enough. I don't process the positive interactions, I only focus on not having anyone right now and feeling like shit when I see a couple. This is irrational, but, pervasive.

I can't stop feeling like this. When ive been single sometimes it happened weekend nights but it's Monday at 740 and the sentiment is creeping.

 

[Kouki]

Is it a problem just because of the lack of a companion or is it more than that? I used to suffer from panic attacks, and certainly ordinary, every day elevated anxiety. Meditation really helps, I thought it was bonkers until I tried it consistently for a couple weeks, but it really does help settle the mind throughout the day, and eliminated panic attacks. You might enjoy progressive muscle relaxation since you are in tune with your bod. Also not sure if you have been on any SSRI or SNRI...I was one Zoloft for anxiety/depression and it did shit all, but I switched to an SNRI, venlafaxine, and it helped with anxiety (it's moreso prescribed for anxiety than depression).

Also realized I forgot to respond to my posts from a few months ago. I'm doing better and reconciling with it. Haven't done a paternity test but she said it's mine and I trust her. As f'ed up as our situation is, I don't think she is in a place where she would lie. And she wants a clean divorce w/ no contracts. She knows I will support the baby.

Anyone deal with parents having potential mental issues? My dad had double bypass a few months ago and shows signs of depression, as he has in the past (especially after retirement, but thankfully he got into volunteering, obviously that stopped since surgery). My mother is seriously getting on our family's nerves lately, near constant complaining. My brother, his wife and their kid just had to live with them for a couple weeks because they were between houses and some of the stuff she was saying was downright terrible. But at the same time she always gets upset when we don't have enough family time. My sister in law was also nearly legally dead last year after a stroke. You would think she would...kinda...not be like that, after all the shit our family has been through, be more appreciative. I haven't seen my parents much because of the COVID (dad is high risk) and because of my marriage situation (which they don't know about), but I was over today and got a taste for it...and I hate to say it but damn, I don't even want to spend time with my mother because it's grating. They are mid 60's, her mother had alzheimers and she shows some early signs but nothing serious yet.

How do you tell you parents to go to counseling...

 

[Adam]

It's always hard when the parents become the children in the family and everyone can see their game playing. Good thing is they never listen so you can straight tell them to go to therapy and they won't go but at least you can tell yourself you did your bit to help