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CBBI said:
Gawd damn.
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C section, thankfully.

But uh… weird when you do the growth exam the week prior, and his head and abdomen list as OOR for percentile.

Out of range.
 
The Oi said:
My son didn’t get rebellious until around 7, when our daughter turned 1 and he realized it was good business. Now they’re both pricks.

Works out pretty good.
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Have you still been locking them in the carpeted closet in the dark when they act out? I felt like this was great advice you offered to me when our oldest daughter acts out...
 
bushwick_bill said:
Have you still been locking them in the carpeted closet in the dark when they act out? I felt like this was great advice you offered to me when our oldest daughter acts out...
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Removed the carpet.
 
Mine's 11, closer to 12. She's super talented and naturally good at a lot of things. However, being naturally good at stuff has made her feel she doesn't need to work at anything. She is the mirror of me. I was the same for a lot of things, but she is worse. I don't want to call her lazy, but that might be the word that best fits. Right now, we frame it around her athletics. She wants to be the best, but she doesn't have the natural urge to put in the time to hone her skills. I at least would make my poor dad rebound for me or let me practice my baseball skills pitching to him for hours on end. She doesn't want to put up shots or hit the driving range. She even has a cousin who is two years older that is a basketball star, and she works her ASS OFF on her skills. Right there is a perfect role model, but it doesn't help. We tell her that a lot of her success is because she is bigger/taller than most of the kids her age. Eventually, the others will catch up in size and then it will be that practice that the others have been doing that will leave my daughter behind.

This leads into the age-old question: How do you get kids to take the advice of their parents when we offer it to them instead of waiting until they are older and realizing that they should have taken their advice in the first place? Kids always think they know better. I know I did. You probably thought so too. No matter how many times I tell her, "I know you don't think what I am telling you is true, but I've lived it and know that this is something you need to do to make your life easier. You're thinking right now, just be quiet and let me be, but I PROMISE that I know what I'm talking about because I lived it!" it doesn't seem to make a dent.

Is it possible to break this cycle? How do I get her to accept our advice and guidance even though history says that it won't happen?
 
My parents seldom gave advice. My struggles weren't related to lack of effort or ignoring advice, but to having absolutely terrible social skills. No one understood autism in adolescent girls then. A quiet girl who did well academically could fly under the radar in the 1990s and 2000s. It wasn't until the 2010s when I'd already graduated college and entered the workforce when I started experiencing major problems related to my autism.
 
Hurl Bruce said:
Mine's 11, closer to 12. She's super talented and naturally good at a lot of things. However, being naturally good at stuff has made her feel she doesn't need to work at anything. She is the mirror of me. I was the same for a lot of things, but she is worse. I don't want to call her lazy, but that might be the word that best fits. Right now, we frame it around her athletics. She wants to be the best, but she doesn't have the natural urge to put in the time to hone her skills. I at least would make my poor dad rebound for me or let me practice my baseball skills pitching to him for hours on end. She doesn't want to put up shots or hit the driving range. She even has a cousin who is two years older that is a basketball star, and she works her ASS OFF on her skills. Right there is a perfect role model, but it doesn't help. We tell her that a lot of her success is because she is bigger/taller than most of the kids her age. Eventually, the others will catch up in size and then it will be that practice that the others have been doing that will leave my daughter behind.

This leads into the age-old question: How do you get kids to take the advice of their parents when we offer it to them instead of waiting until they are older and realizing that they should have taken their advice in the first place? Kids always think they know better. I know I did. You probably thought so too. No matter how many times I tell her, "I know you don't think what I am telling you is true, but I've lived it and know that this is something you need to do to make your life easier. You're thinking right now, just be quiet and let me be, but I PROMISE that I know what I'm talking about because I lived it!" it doesn't seem to make a dent.

Is it possible to break this cycle? How do I get her to accept our advice and guidance even though history says that it won't happen?
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Stick with me here on this post. Not judging you, all of these are mistakes I’ve made before figuring out what was going on and making adjustments. Possibly not things you’ve done at all.

Does she REALLY like sports and the other things she’s into? Or do YOU want her to like sports and the other activities she’s doing?

Are there things she chooses to work really hard at? Are there things she does listen to you about or doesn’t even need advice about?

I have found that with kids they can seem lazy when they are pushed to do things that don’t suit their interests or wiring. Then when they are doing things that they’re genuinely interested in, you don’t have to push them at all.
 
The age range of toddlers has exploded..... I kid, I kid...

22 month old had his first surgery, adenoids removed and epiglottis shaved down. Had to be done due to sleep apnea. Already had better O2 sats the first night afterward. Has been a trooper through this. Hopefully this corrected it and the f/u sleep study goes well.

Walking wise, he still has issues with elevation changes and his proprioception remains kind of poor there- he will step up on lots of things but won't take more than 1 stair. But progress is being made. Has become a total chatter box, experimenting with more sounds. Feeling better about his eventual language skills; has even picked up some sign language (his own versions). Altho it's pretty funny that a kid who doesn't say much can blurt out 'I did it!' when he accomplishes something and he loved to yell his nickname when happy (makes me think of Steve Holt from Arrested Development and I love it).

As for the 3 year old sister, took her first big dump on the potty yesterday after conquering peeing on the can. Loves to write her own songs and sing them in the bathroom. Still trying to determine if the tantrums are just toddling or possibly autistic in nature. I'm on the spectrum so keeping an eye on this.
 
Question for the new parents.. my grandson gets a lot of ear infections. Do they still put in tubes for that?

Both my boys had multiple tubes, and oldest suffered until his adenoids were removed around 3..
 
My little dude is now enjoying early preschool on Tuesdays and Thursdays. He's increasingly interested in books and knows about half the alphabet and letter sounds. He's still very monosyllabic in his speech, and he still mixes up D and N sounds (he used to call his daddy "nana" instead of "dada," and calls a banana a "badada," lol), but I'm very excited over the book and alphabet progress. Unlike his mama, no signs of autism so far. His phenylketonuria is well controlled and he seems to be developing quite normally.
 
CleveRocks said:
Question for the new parents.. my grandson gets a lot of ear infections. Do they still put in tubes for that?

Both my boys had multiple tubes, and oldest suffered until his adenoids were removed around 3..
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Yep, although typically ENTs (at least in my experience) won’t even consider it until they’ve had something like 3-4 of them within a 6 month period.

I had tubes when I was a kid, and I think they fell out when I was 3.
 
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